There are few things in life worse than infidelity. Most spouses would rather lose their spouse in a tragic death than to have their spouse cheat on them. Infidelity destroys marriages, families, ministries, and friendships. I was reading this article from Focus on the Family on infidelity and thought that these quick facts have some wisdom about the subject:
Nobody wakes up one day and suddenly decides to begin an extramarital affair.
Infidelity begins in the heart and mind. By the time a person physically commits adultery, he or she has been indulging for quite some time in progressively more intense mental and emotional affairs.
Pornography is one of the worst affairs of the mind. It can destroy years of marital fidelity within hours.
Left unchecked, workplace friendships between men and women can easily evolve into emotional affairs.
Marital fidelity begins long before marriage:
o It begins as a promise we make to ourselves  to be a person of faithful character  before marriage ever enters the picture.
o It is a promise we make to our future spouse when we get engaged.
o It is a vow we make to our spouse when we get married.
Marital fidelity is a daily commitment to seek the best for your spouse and family.
Marital fidelity is strengthened when you affirm your spouse, listen to your spouse, and seek to meet his or her needs. It’s also strengthened when you set healthy boundaries for your media consumption and for your relationships outside of the home.
Marital fidelity is weakened when you devalue your spouse, minimize the time you have with your spouse, and focus on meeting your own needs. It’s also weakened when you fantasize about someone other than your spouse (and God) meeting your deepest needs and desires.
Marital fidelity produces lifelong rewards. In contrast, infidelity can cause years of untold anguish.
“Silently and imperceptibly, as we work or sleep, we grow strong or we grow weak; and at last some crisis shows us what we have become” (B. F. Westcott). This is true in every area of life, including marital fidelity.
And add to this list the important foundation of the Gospel, apart from the Gospel, there is no hope.
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Great post and very practical. Enjoyed it.